By Suffiullah
Definition of an Ideal Family: A fundamental social group in society consisting of one or two parents with children. The family shares goals, cultural values and religious values and have long–term commitments to each other. The central institution of Muslim society is the family.
A. Parental Activities
B. Children’s Activities
C. Social Activities
A. Parents Activities: O my son! Perform prayer regularly, enjoin (and support) what is good (and just), and stop (and prevent) what is wrong: And be patient and constant with whatever happens to you, verily, these are of the firm commandments. [Sura Luqman: 31:17]
i. Parental Responsibilities Towards Their Children
ii. Parents Own Rights
i. Parental Responsibilities Towards Their Children:
For a baby:
1. Listening to the “Adhan” when the baby is born
2. Keeping a meaningful Islamic name
3. Performing the akikha for the baby
4. Circumcising the baby if it is a boy
5. Piercing nose and ears if baby is girl
For their kids:
1. Feeding them
2. Loving them
3. Take caring of them
4. Kindness
5. Tolerance
6. Forgiveness
7. Well-wishing
8. Friendliness
9. Open-mindedness
10. Spending time with them
11. Helping them
For Children:
1. Sending them to a good school
2. Helping them with their studies
3. Watching what is going on
4. Teaching them what is right
5. Telling them what is wrong
6. Playing with them
7. Going to a mosque together
8. Praying with them and for them
For Education:
a. Learning about Islam from:
1. Parents
2. Family members
3. Imam (Teacher)
4. Islamic Leaders
5. Mosque
6. Muslim Club (School or College or University)
7. Muslim Community Center
8. Islamic Organization
9. Islamic Institutes
b. Career of Study:
1. Collecting all studies material before class starts
2. Studies should be first priority
3. Giving them opportunities to spend time on their studies
4. Asking your children questions
5. Become economically stable
6. Use all educational tools
Looking for life partner:
1. First quality has to be “Tawaqa”
2. Financially established
3. Good health
4. Beauty
5. Compatibility
6. Educated
7. A Muslim
ii. Parents Own Rights:
For Family Meeting:
12. Meet monthly
13. Talk with your children kindly
14. Discuss any kind of problems (family or personal)
15. Count on each other for advice
16. Solve problems by discussing
17. Every family member has to participate
18. Work as a team
19. Family picnic in the summer
20. Family get together
21. Have good relationships with each family member
For Job:
1. Go on time
2. Work honestly
3. Take the job seriously
4. Count your time
5. Do your job very sincerely
6. Be trustworthy to your employees
7. Maintain a good relationship with your boss
8. Eat with co-workers
9. Help them when they need help
10. Give a gift to your employee/employer
11. Be a team worker
B. Children Activities: “And your Lord has commanded that you worship none but Him. And that you be kind to your parents. Whether one or both of them reach old age in your life, do not say a word of (hate and) disrespect to them; and do not brush them aside, instead, talk to them with (respect and) honor. And, (out of kindness), lower to them the arm of submission by being humble through mercy, and say: My Lord! Grant to them Your Mercy as they brought me up (dearly) during my childhood.” [Sura Al-Isra`:17:23-24]
i. For Children Responsibilities Towards Parents
ii. Marriage Life
i. For Children Responsibilities Towards Parents:
22. Always keep your mind and eyes open
23. Be kind to your parents
24. Treat them (parents) with kindness
25. Have a good relationship with your parents
26. Be loving toward your parents
27. Talk politely to them
28. Take care of your parents very well
29. Spend time with them
30. Feed them with your own hand
31. Look after them
32. Pray daily and make “Duwa” for parents
ii. For Marriage Life:
1. Love each other
2. Trust each other
3. Help each other
4. Maintain a strong relationship to each other
5. Eat outside together
6. Give gifts on special events
7. Go outside for entertainment
8. Help with cooking
9. Pray together
10. Know each other very well
11. Take care of each other financially
C. Social Activities: Verily, the Muslim men and women-The believing men and women-The (deeply) religious men and women-The true men and women-The men and women who are patient and constant-The men and women who make themselves humble (before Allah)-The men and women who give charity-The men and women who fast-The men and women who guard their chastity-And the men and women who remember Allah much-With their hearts and (words on) their tongues; For them (such men and women) Allah has prepared forgiveness and great reward. [Sura Al-Ahzab:33:35]
i. Behaviors
ii. A good Health
iii. Other Activities
i. For Behaviors:
1. Respect elders
2. Be loving towards younger people
3. Speak the truth with everyone
4. Have good manners with anybody
5. Help each human being
6. Be patient all the time
7. Try to be creative your own way
8. Be accountable with time
9. Always be well organized
ii. For A Good Health:
1. Eat “Halal” foods
2. Avoid fatty foods
3. Always eating more vegetables
4. Don’t eat too much meat
5. Drink lots of water everyday (8 glasses)
6. Eat fresh fruits
7. Play indoor games when it is winter time
8. Play outdoor games when it is summer time
9. Go to the Gym and hospital for check-ups
10. Exercise as a daily life routine
iii. For Other Activities:
1. Love your neighbors
2. Do good works for non Muslim and Muslim
people 3. Volunteer with the Muslim Community
4. Go to summer camp with Islamic Organizations
5. Have interfaith dialogues with other religious groups
6. Visit and invite relatives or neighbors
7. Financially support your family
8. Pay “Zakat” if we are able to do it
9. Give to charities
10. Help fundraisers
11. Donating for any need
12. Arrange funeral baths and grave when someone dies
13. Arrange for “Janaza” prayer for the deceased.
Recommendation: The family is the beginning foundation of our society. Like a tree, if we have a good tree we can get good fruits from the tree. If we have a bad tree we are getting bad fruits from the tree. Our society will benefit if we have a strong family.
Definition of an Ideal Family: A fundamental social group in society consisting of one or two parents with children. The family shares goals, cultural values and religious values and have long–term commitments to each other. The central institution of Muslim society is the family.
A. Parental Activities
B. Children’s Activities
C. Social Activities
A. Parents Activities: O my son! Perform prayer regularly, enjoin (and support) what is good (and just), and stop (and prevent) what is wrong: And be patient and constant with whatever happens to you, verily, these are of the firm commandments. [Sura Luqman: 31:17]
i. Parental Responsibilities Towards Their Children
ii. Parents Own Rights
i. Parental Responsibilities Towards Their Children:
For a baby:
1. Listening to the “Adhan” when the baby is born
2. Keeping a meaningful Islamic name
3. Performing the akikha for the baby
4. Circumcising the baby if it is a boy
5. Piercing nose and ears if baby is girl
For their kids:
1. Feeding them
2. Loving them
3. Take caring of them
4. Kindness
5. Tolerance
6. Forgiveness
7. Well-wishing
8. Friendliness
9. Open-mindedness
10. Spending time with them
11. Helping them
For Children:
1. Sending them to a good school
2. Helping them with their studies
3. Watching what is going on
4. Teaching them what is right
5. Telling them what is wrong
6. Playing with them
7. Going to a mosque together
8. Praying with them and for them
For Education:
a. Learning about Islam from:
1. Parents
2. Family members
3. Imam (Teacher)
4. Islamic Leaders
5. Mosque
6. Muslim Club (School or College or University)
7. Muslim Community Center
8. Islamic Organization
9. Islamic Institutes
b. Career of Study:
1. Collecting all studies material before class starts
2. Studies should be first priority
3. Giving them opportunities to spend time on their studies
4. Asking your children questions
5. Become economically stable
6. Use all educational tools
Looking for life partner:
1. First quality has to be “Tawaqa”
2. Financially established
3. Good health
4. Beauty
5. Compatibility
6. Educated
7. A Muslim
ii. Parents Own Rights:
For Family Meeting:
12. Meet monthly
13. Talk with your children kindly
14. Discuss any kind of problems (family or personal)
15. Count on each other for advice
16. Solve problems by discussing
17. Every family member has to participate
18. Work as a team
19. Family picnic in the summer
20. Family get together
21. Have good relationships with each family member
For Job:
1. Go on time
2. Work honestly
3. Take the job seriously
4. Count your time
5. Do your job very sincerely
6. Be trustworthy to your employees
7. Maintain a good relationship with your boss
8. Eat with co-workers
9. Help them when they need help
10. Give a gift to your employee/employer
11. Be a team worker
B. Children Activities: “And your Lord has commanded that you worship none but Him. And that you be kind to your parents. Whether one or both of them reach old age in your life, do not say a word of (hate and) disrespect to them; and do not brush them aside, instead, talk to them with (respect and) honor. And, (out of kindness), lower to them the arm of submission by being humble through mercy, and say: My Lord! Grant to them Your Mercy as they brought me up (dearly) during my childhood.” [Sura Al-Isra`:17:23-24]
i. For Children Responsibilities Towards Parents
ii. Marriage Life
i. For Children Responsibilities Towards Parents:
22. Always keep your mind and eyes open
23. Be kind to your parents
24. Treat them (parents) with kindness
25. Have a good relationship with your parents
26. Be loving toward your parents
27. Talk politely to them
28. Take care of your parents very well
29. Spend time with them
30. Feed them with your own hand
31. Look after them
32. Pray daily and make “Duwa” for parents
ii. For Marriage Life:
1. Love each other
2. Trust each other
3. Help each other
4. Maintain a strong relationship to each other
5. Eat outside together
6. Give gifts on special events
7. Go outside for entertainment
8. Help with cooking
9. Pray together
10. Know each other very well
11. Take care of each other financially
C. Social Activities: Verily, the Muslim men and women-The believing men and women-The (deeply) religious men and women-The true men and women-The men and women who are patient and constant-The men and women who make themselves humble (before Allah)-The men and women who give charity-The men and women who fast-The men and women who guard their chastity-And the men and women who remember Allah much-With their hearts and (words on) their tongues; For them (such men and women) Allah has prepared forgiveness and great reward. [Sura Al-Ahzab:33:35]
i. Behaviors
ii. A good Health
iii. Other Activities
i. For Behaviors:
1. Respect elders
2. Be loving towards younger people
3. Speak the truth with everyone
4. Have good manners with anybody
5. Help each human being
6. Be patient all the time
7. Try to be creative your own way
8. Be accountable with time
9. Always be well organized
ii. For A Good Health:
1. Eat “Halal” foods
2. Avoid fatty foods
3. Always eating more vegetables
4. Don’t eat too much meat
5. Drink lots of water everyday (8 glasses)
6. Eat fresh fruits
7. Play indoor games when it is winter time
8. Play outdoor games when it is summer time
9. Go to the Gym and hospital for check-ups
10. Exercise as a daily life routine
iii. For Other Activities:
1. Love your neighbors
2. Do good works for non Muslim and Muslim
people 3. Volunteer with the Muslim Community
4. Go to summer camp with Islamic Organizations
5. Have interfaith dialogues with other religious groups
6. Visit and invite relatives or neighbors
7. Financially support your family
8. Pay “Zakat” if we are able to do it
9. Give to charities
10. Help fundraisers
11. Donating for any need
12. Arrange funeral baths and grave when someone dies
13. Arrange for “Janaza” prayer for the deceased.
Recommendation: The family is the beginning foundation of our society. Like a tree, if we have a good tree we can get good fruits from the tree. If we have a bad tree we are getting bad fruits from the tree. Our society will benefit if we have a strong family.
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